Polyamory is gaining increased attention as an alternative and credible relationship arrangement. Moreover, in some circles, it is being lauded as an edified choice — the prime choice for the precocious and a wise choice for the ‘woke’. Certain aspects of polyamory are advantageous. It is more closely aligned to…

Modern monogamy — unfit for purpose While much of our social landscape is shifting, monogamy is still the gold moral standard for relationships. Partnering is seen as a normal process that confirms a person’s self-worth, sustains shaky self-esteem and secures their social success. However, the current state of ‘normal’ monogamy is a fragile façade covering a…

Now that I am at the end of this book, I am compelled to return to the beginning and remember the me from many months ago. Honestly, I was haunted. The regrets of past relationships were regularly roaming the halls of my heart, howling about the ignorance, infidelity and lack…

Why would I have one loaf of bread? — It is said there is no such thing as coincidence, only synchronicity. And I believe this to be so. I do not know the source of the timely sympathetic signals, but the support they provide always lifts my spirits. It was such a pleasant surprise then while I was reviewing…

Welcome to Monogamy Mk2 — Through the previous dozen chapters, I have explored the notion of monogamy from many different perspectives. I have traversed monogamy in the physical, mental, and spiritual realms. I have seen the pressures placed upon it from the partnerships of the past, the practicalities of the present and have gained a…

I will always remember the exuberance in my friend’s eyes when he described his experience of consciously and confidently choosing monogamy. There was a radiance around him as he expressed the power and passion it created and the honour and humility that came with freely giving himself to another. He…

The potential and perversion of sex in exclusive relationships What has sex got to do with monogamy? Everything. Sex has everything to do with monogamy. Remember, monogamy is defined as: “a dyadic and sexually exclusive relationship, where sex is defined as the act of stimulating the sexual organs of another…

It could be argued that the set of laws in any land signify what is truly important for the peace and prosperity of its people. This is because the resources required to create and uphold laws are significant. In modern democracies, there are piles of paperwork prepared and sometimes years…

What role does religion play in our sexually exclusive relationships? If you describe yourself as an agnostic or an atheist, you may wish to skip this chapter. However, you would be incorrect in assuming that because you have rejected religion, it has no relevance to your intimate relationships. Marriage, sex…