I must preface this chapter by stating I am not an anthropologist or historian. Moreover, the information contained within is only the tip of the iceberg that is the history of our intimate human relationships. Of course, this circumstance will become apparent as you continue. Still, I decided to provide…

The previous chapter presented the science that shows monogamy is an unnatural mating arrangement for our species. Human physiology is geared towards maximising reproductive potential, and monogamy inhibits the achievement of this intrinsic aim. If we choose monogamy, then we need to understand that both our bodies and brains may…

Now that we have a working definition of monogamy (a dyadic and sexually exclusive relationship), we can determine if this state is natural for human beings. The word natural means “in accordance with or determined by nature.”[1] So, as this definition suggests, when we ask if monogamy is natural, we…

In her book, The Right to Sex[i], Amia Srinivasan declares that women have never yet been free to understand and express their sexuality fully. She shares the concerns of many feminists before her about the ‘false’ authority granted to pornography and how it has trained us to repeat destructive and…

Words hold great power, but they do not hold this intrinsically. Their power comes from the intentions in our hearts when we choose to share them. The words chosen then, like the intentions that project them, can be used to help or to harm. Words can console and connect, bringing…

Why Have One Loaf of Bread When You Can Have the Whole Bakery? This is the question posed to me by my Great Aunty Dot. I was in my early twenties and had just begun my career and my quest to find love. Some weekends I took the train up the coast to enjoy her wicked wisdom and gorge myself on her vast…

Monogamy is not natural. But it is normal. Can you feel the tension rising? Why is it that being in a monogamous relationship is so difficult? The answer is simple. Monogamy is not natural, but it is normal. And more importantly, despite being contrary to our physiological and neurological makeup is still upheld as the gold standard of morality. …

Every single action we take is driven by emotion. As much as we would like to believe we humans are compelled by logic, what we do (or do not) is a direct result of how we feel. Moreover, some emotions create compassionate action, and some manifest through acts of oppression…