What is the driving force behind your vote? The upcoming referendum on the Voice to Parliament appears to be bringing with it a great deal of division. This is to be expected when you only have two choices, which are oppositional in nature. There is no middle ground here. There…

Or…how our emotions will drive our extinction — As a species, we are incredibly proud of our scientific advancements. And rightly so. Our discoveries and technologies have helped to extend life expectancy, expand food production, explore space, excite each other with new ideas, and entertain us in every waking moment. And yet, these incredible innovations have also led…

The Foundation of Transformation Recently, I was asked to prepare a talk on transformation. So, I began sifting through my toolkit of thoughts on how a person, a relationship or an organisation evolves into a new and better version of itself. What I came to realise quickly, though, is that…

The malevolent myths mangling marriage. — “The concept of marriage is phantasmic” ~ Missy Jubilee Phantasmic mythic, existing only in the imagination. Made-up, fictive, invented, delusional[i]. Missy’s latest film, LSD (standing for Love, Sex and Divorce), provides an incredible insight into what is truly important to this fabulous filmmaker. Through weaving words, she explores notions of…

As business leaders, we tend to think that our corporate challenges are modern maladies that must be managed with contemporary constructs. We lean towards an insular approach to achieving excellence, guided by only the latest intelligence (increasingly of the artificial kind). And we tend to see business transformation as the…

Are you giving a gift or sending suffering? — This article highlights hypocrisy occurring in the hallowed halls of our organisations and each corner of our offices. While we decry bullying as a major form of incompetence, a more insidious issue is being ignored and left to create sneaky suffering across all levels of an organisation. This is communication…

Polyamory is gaining increased attention as an alternative and credible relationship arrangement. Moreover, in some circles, it is being lauded as an edified choice — the prime choice for the precocious and a wise choice for the ‘woke’. Certain aspects of polyamory are advantageous. It is more closely aligned to…

Modern monogamy — unfit for purpose While much of our social landscape is shifting, monogamy is still the gold moral standard for relationships. Partnering is seen as a normal process that confirms a person’s self-worth, sustains shaky self-esteem and secures their social success. However, the current state of ‘normal’ monogamy is a fragile façade covering a…

Now that I am at the end of this book, I am compelled to return to the beginning and remember the me from many months ago. Honestly, I was haunted. The regrets of past relationships were regularly roaming the halls of my heart, howling about the ignorance, infidelity and lack…